Grand standers

Hi! My name is Maggie. Well, of course my name isn't Maggie. That's just the name I'm going to use. I made the mistake of using my real name on another site and wished I hadn't.

The first thing I want to talk about is grand standers. I don't understand them and I would like for someone to explain them to me. You know the ones I'm talking about. They go to every public event and make their presence known. They don't ever seem to notice you, even when they are talking to you. It really is all about them. Actually, I take that back. They don't talk to you. They talk at you. They seem to position themselves in the most prominent place at every church or school function. They rudely stand up and walk in front of a crowd of people, making a big to do of it. It doesn't matter that they are interrupting and getting in every one's way. That's the point. If they are front and center, everyone will see them. They are loud. They are so loud that everyone knows who they are, but noone really knows them.

That leads me to believe that either, they feel they need to hide who they really are, or they don't even know themselves. Their lives are centered around the image they are trying to portray.

I have recently met two such women and they perplex me. I want to know what drives them. Generally, if I can understand another person's annoying behavior, it doesn't bother me as bad.

Now, don't state the obvious. Yes, I'm sure they each have a low self-esteem. I have a low self-esteem, but I don't act like that. I want something more concrete. What could possibly make a person need to be seen to that degree?

Oh, and, neither of these women are overly attractive. Don't get me wrong, they aren't exactly unattractive but they aren't those beautiful women that need to be seen because it's all that they have going for them.

Any thoughts?